New beginnings come with new people and hard adjustments. When you enter into college, you also enter the world of college dating that’s full of new experiences and different rules.
1. Asking someone out: You no longer have to go through your best friends and social networks to try and communicate with the person you are fond of like in high school. If you want to get to know someone better, ask them! Spending time with someone on campus can be anything to studying together or grabbing coffee. Start off slow, and if you feel a connection and the communication flows easily, go for a real date!
2. Don’t trust too easily: When you date in high school, you are familiar with the people and usually their families before you date them. You were in school together and most of the people you dated shared similar traits and assets. In college however, you’re surrounded by new unique people whom you know nothing about except based off what they tell you.
3. Date for your future: The most exciting part of entering the world of college dating is getting one step closer to finding the person you’re going to be spending the rest of your life with. In high school, people generally dated within their or other socially acceptable cliques. While in college, relationships are focused on who you feel the happiest around and the person you can see yourself marrying later on. College can be the best four years of your life and maybe where you meet your special someone. If you feel like the relationship isn’t going somewhere, ditch it! Being an adult means managing adult relationships in which you should carefully evaluate the role of your significant other in the future.
4. Be prepared for open endings: In high school when two people stopped talking and decided to go their different ways, it was a huge deal. Generally you had to face that person in the hallway everyday and everyone around you knew the awkwardness of the breakup. In college, there aren’t usually dramatic endings. If the other person isn’t feeling it anymore, generally they’ll just stop talking to you especially in big universities. They just move on to the next person,which is a wonderful example of what you should do in life regardless. Move on from those who already moved on from you.
5. Casual dating: The main difference between high school and college dating is the concept behind simply being asked out. In college, you’ll find individuals asking if you simply “Want to go out sometime?” or “Grab a bite to eat?”. Which basically means lets get to know each other, no pressure, and we will see what happens from there. In high school however, being asked out meant a sign of commitment and that it makes you exclusively boyfriend and girlfriend.
6. Relationships move faster: With boys and girls living so close together, college relationships tend to move faster and rush the get to know you parts to living together. Be careful of how fast your relationship is moving, and beware of the isolation that tends to happen when you’re focused on one individual and their happiness alone. Don’t be afraid to put yourself out there, but make sure you don’t lose sight of everything else that is happening around you.